Enforcing Household Rules with Your Autistic Child

By Janessa

To make life easier for everyone, it is always best that you take time to train your child to follow some basic household rules the same way that you would teach a normally developed child. Like any other child, your autistic child must be taught how to follow rules, how to establish good habits and how to do things on their own.

Create some basic household rules and take the time to discuss each rule with your child. Show him what the rule means and if appropriate, show him what he needs to do to follow the rules. Keep in mind that autistic children are very visual and as such, would require a visual image for them to be able to better understand what they need to do.

For example, if you want your child to know what he needs to do when he arrives home from school, you can create a poster that lists down everything that he needs to do. Use as much pictures as you can to help your child. Make sure that the poster is visible and can be easily seen as soon as he gets home from school. A good place to put your poster is by the door where he usually enters when he arrives from school.

You should also make sure that you provide your child the proper support he needs to be able to follow the rules. If you want him to fix his toys and put them away after he plays with them, you need to provide a place to keep them. Let him know where each toy is supposed to be kept. By providing your child an organized system, you are making it easier for him to follow your household rules.

Keep in mind that your household rules need to always be consistent. Both parents need to enforce the rules strictly. There shouldn’t be any conditions nor exceptions to the household rules. If you want your child to take ff his shoes before entering the house, then he must take it off each time he enters the house and not only when he is in a good mood.

Be warned that not having a consistent household rule will not only be confusing for your child but will also prevent him from developing the skills that you want him to learn.


  1. I totally agree when it comes to setting the ground rules! My 9yr old son has Aspergers and to be honest he responds better when there are clear rules about what he has to do and when. Left to his own devices he becomes confused and distressed so clear guidelines help him to feel in control and secure.

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